The Likeability Factor How to Boost Your L-Factor and Achieve Your Life's Dreams
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Share your glory. Few of us are totally self-made successes. Almost everyone has had some help from a mentor, a sponsor, a teammate, a coach, or a friend. Every time you experience success of any type, make an effort to share it with everyone who contributed.
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Whatâ??s success without friends? Itâ??s lame, thatâ??s what it is. Everyone needs help and encouragementâ??make sure to thank the people who gave that to you.
Let your values be your compass as you navigate life. Your beliefs and your actions should overlap. If you’re contemplating an action that contradicts your manifesto, be careful. It probably isn’t true to you.
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If thereâ??s anyone on the world you should be true to, itâ??s you. When youâ??re not true to yourself, not only is it bad for you, itâ??s easy for people to get confused about who you are and if youâ??re worth trusting.
Unfriendliness is a weakness. Every time you’re unfriendly with someone, you’ve experienced a failure to control yourself… Challenge yourself to maintain friendliness despite the stimuli around you. Don’t succumb to the weakness of unfriendliness. Make it a matter of pride.
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This is great! I think itâ??s amazing when people assume when youâ??re not livid and heated in a stressful situation, itâ??s because youâ??re weak. Most of the time itâ??s exactly the opposite.
Your friendliness, combined with your empathy and relevance, will make you a likeable person—but it’s your ability to be real that will make you absolutely shine.
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You can tell people what they donâ??t want to hear, thatâ??s not being mean. But telling someone theyâ??re wrong without fully understanding their point of view is asking for trouble.
Another, more recent study by researchers at the Family Development Center, in conjunction with the University of Minnesota, concluded that “students become better learners when they experience warmth and friendliness, when they receive praise, recognition, and respect.”
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Itâ??s amazing how the right words can sometime seem more important than an â??Aâ? or a pay check.
Synergy occurs when two or more people produce more value together than they could produce individually; achieving it has become a quest for individuals, companies, and entire nations… To be synergistic requires that we become interdependent. Just a few people working together can create an organization with the power of hundreds.
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Thereâ??s nothing weak about not knowing a certain subject or not controlling a certain outcome. Sometimes trusting others and letting things happen is the best way of handling a situation.
I’ve always believed that you can become twice as good at something you are already good at faster than you can cut a weakness in half. In other words, it’s easier to grow the talents you posses—you have momentum!
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Thereâ??s nothing wrong with wearing lot of hats, and you should be â??competentâ? with as many as possible, but thereâ??s a point where youâ??re better suited to pick a path and run with it. Donâ??t forget about the areas youâ??re leaving behind, just make sure theyâ??re taken care of by someone running down that path.
A 2000 study by Yale University and the Center for Socialization and Development-Berlin concluded that “people, unlike animals, gain success not by being aggressive but by being nice. The research found that the most successful leaders, from CEOs to PTA presidents, all treated their subordinates with respect and made genuine attempts to be liked. Their approach garnered support and led to greater success.”
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The immediate gratification may not be there, but doing things right while respecting and caring will lead to more money and success. So be nice. Why would you want to work, or work for someone, in an environment where people donâ??t enjoy each otherâ??s company?
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From the bestselling author of Love Is the Killer AppYou can win life’s popularity contestsThe choices other people make about you determine your health, wealth, and happiness. And decades of research prove that people choose who they like. They vote for them, buy from them, marry them, and spend precious time with them. The good news is that you can arm yourself for the contest and win life’s battles for preference. How? By raising your likeability factor.The more you are liked, the happier your life will be. In The Likeability Factor, business guru Tim Sanders shows how to build your likeability factor by teaching you how to enhance four critical elements of your personality: • Friendliness: your ability to communicate liking and openness to others • Relevance: your capacity to connect with others’ interests, wants, and needs • Empathy: your ability to recognize, acknowledge, and experience other people’s feelings • Realness: the integrity that stands behind your likeability and guarantees its authenticity When you improve these areas and boost your likeability factor, you bring out the best in others, handle life’s challenges with grace, enjoy better health, and excel in your daily roles. You can win the close calls and tight competitions that define and determine success and happiness at work and in life—The Likeability Factor can show you how!
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- Pages: 224
- ISBN: 1400080509
- EAN: 9781400080502
- Dewey: 658
- Binding: Paperback
- Publisher: Three Rivers Press
Humility requires both self-awareness and self-discipline. When you overestimate your value, you experience false pride. False pride isn’t pretty. People who have an inflated view of themselves and their accomplishments are generally perceived as out of touch with reality—and are usually disliked.
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Itâ??s incredibly hard to have a productive conversation with someone that thinks they already have all the answers. The second you stop caring about other peopleâ??s ideas, is the second you start losing touch with the real world.